Category Archives: bowen family systems theory

Differentiation and emotional maturity

Posted on April 6, 2009 by Israel Galindo

A friend has been working on his differentiation of self for some time now. He is a curious learner, has done responsible self-work (reading, seeing a therapist, using a coach, working on his family of origin relationships), and he asks … Continue reading →

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Taking stock

Posted on March 30, 2009 by Israel Galindo

The new job has taken me out of the loop of what used to be a steady study of Bowen Family Systems Theory (BFST). I’ve missed being regularly engaged in study and discussions about the theory and its application with … Continue reading →

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How to deal with a wall

Posted on March 17, 2009 by Israel Galindo

One of the first dollars I made for a job was knocking through a wall in a New York City brownstone. I used a sledgehammer and it took me an entire day. I was paid a dollar, but in the … Continue reading →

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Congregations during pastoral transitions

Posted on March 9, 2009 by Israel Galindo

Pastoral transitions can be anxiety-ridden times for congregations. Congregations that go through an interim period without pastoral leadership need to navigate transition without an organization’s chief resource: its leader. That transition involves many challenges, including, disruption of homeostasis, a shift … Continue reading →

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When is a cutoff not a cutoff?

Posted on March 2, 2009 by Israel Galindo

At a recent workshop with clergy on Bowen Family Systems Theory and congregational leadership one lingering question came up. When dealing with the concept of cutoffs among clergy, it has become inevitable that someone will bring up the matter of … Continue reading →

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Traits of the well-defined leader

Posted on February 17, 2009 by Israel Galindo

I came across some notes from a presentation by my friend Ken Hurto (who recently pleasantly surprised me by finding me on Facebook). Ken’s presentation on leadership was titled “Being a Lighthouse and Not a Bulldozer.” In it he used … Continue reading →

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Easier said than done

Posted on February 16, 2009 by Israel Galindo

The concept of the self-differentiated leader is attractive. And those who work toward being a self-differentiated leader strive toward a high goal. But while the concept is relatively easy to define, it’s easier said than done when it comes to … Continue reading →

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It’s a gender thing (maybe)

Posted on February 10, 2009 by Israel Galindo

During a recent conversation I was asking for help in clarifying a misunderstanding from a colleague. She began our conversation by saying, “It’s probably a gender thing.” I’ve never found that a helpful way to start a conversation. My thought … Continue reading →

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Going with what you know

Posted on February 9, 2009 by Israel Galindo

I sometimes share with my students the phenomenon of what I’ve come to call “The Jay Leno Jaywalking Effect.” If you’ve ever watched Jay Leno’s man-on-the-street interview segment called “Jaywalking” you’ve seen the phenomenon. Leno will ask a passerby a … Continue reading →

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BFST Wisdom of the Ages IV conference

Posted on February 5, 2009 by Israel Galindo

A friend recently asked if anyone was working on Bowen’s ninth concept, supernatural phenomenon, or, what many are referring to (regrettably) as “spirituality.” I mentioned a few resources and persons, and, I mentioned Joe Carolin’s Wisdom of the Ages conferences … Continue reading →

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