{"id":1201,"date":"2008-11-11T00:05:01","date_gmt":"2008-11-11T04:05:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/grace-ed.org\/blog\/?p=1201"},"modified":"2008-11-11T10:43:36","modified_gmt":"2008-11-11T14:43:36","slug":"functioning-at-one%e2%80%99s-best","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/grace-ed.org\/blog\/archives\/1201","title":{"rendered":"Functioning at one\u2019s best"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I received an interesting question about Bowen\u2019s concept of self-differentiation. The question, an imaginative one, was \u201cwhat if\u201d some day scientists discovered a \u201cdifferentiation gene.\u201d It was fun to ponder, but, genes don&#8217;t work that way. More to the point, however, differentiation is a product of relationships in a system, the evidence of which is how one functions. If we were to go down the gene therapy route, or more specifically, the biological engineering route related to BFST, then a more likely focus would be how to lower anxiety. And we already have medication for that.<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>Differentiation is about functioning. Bowen\u2019s Scale of Differentiation posits that one characteristic of the highly self-differentiated person is the capacity to separate thinking from feeling, and, their ability to manage the togetherness-separateness reciprocity in personal and systemic relationships. As I observe leaders who function at their best I identify the following characteristics:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Balance is manifested in one\u2019s life: work and play, family and relationships, responsibility and self-care<\/li>\n<li>Clear enough about goals so as to not be sabatoged easily<\/li>\n<li>Clear enough about values so as to not second guess one\u2019s own decisions<\/li>\n<li>Clear enough about principles so as to maintain purpose and agency (self-determinate)<\/li>\n<li>Can be adaptive enough to change patterns of functioning, especially those that tend to lead toward problems or stuckness<\/li>\n<li>Can stay connected to with all parts of the system and does so proactively<\/li>\n<li>Can maintain boundaries in work (does not overfuntion) and relationships (does not own other people\u2019s feelings)<\/li>\n<li>Can receive challenges as opportunities and not problems, in fact, they are energized by a challenge which brings out imagination and creativity<\/li>\n<li>Can challenge and hold others accountable without assigning blame, denigrating them, or being punative<\/li>\n<li>Can avoid personalizing reactivity from others (does not take it personal and does not make it personal)<\/li>\n<li>Can take responsibility for one\u2019s position or job and not for outcomes or for the ultimately fate of the organization<\/li>\n<li>Can seek the cooperation of others without requiring loyalty or personal support<\/li>\n<li>Can seek the welfare of the system above the happiness or predilections of individuals without feeling guilty.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>What other characteristics do you observe in the well-differentiated leader? <\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.galindoconsultants.com\"><img src='http:\/\/grace-ed.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2007\/11\/galindobanner5.jpg' alt='galindoconsultants.com' \/><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I received an interesting question about Bowen\u2019s concept of self-differentiation. The question, an imaginative one, was \u201cwhat if\u201d some day scientists discovered a \u201cdifferentiation gene.\u201d It was fun to ponder, but, genes don&#8217;t work that way. More to the point, &hellip; <a href=\"http:\/\/grace-ed.org\/blog\/archives\/1201\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[18,22,27],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1201","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-bowen-family-systems-theory","category-leadership","category-personal-growth"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/grace-ed.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1201","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/grace-ed.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/grace-ed.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/grace-ed.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/grace-ed.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1201"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"http:\/\/grace-ed.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1201\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1210,"href":"http:\/\/grace-ed.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1201\/revisions\/1210"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/grace-ed.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1201"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/grace-ed.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1201"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/grace-ed.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1201"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}