Comments on: Back to basics: The Triangle 5 http://grace-ed.org/blog/archives/1556 Christian Education, Leadership, and Misc. Wed, 23 Nov 2011 14:16:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Martin http://grace-ed.org/blog/archives/1556/comment-page-1#comment-12357 Martin Mon, 29 Jun 2009 17:03:48 +0000 http://grace-ed.org/blog/?p=1556#comment-12357 Speaking from personal experience, you don't need kids to say "I've turned into my parents!" Talking to a college friend who was having a rough patch in his marriage and I explained that odds are he was repeating his parents marriage and he didn't realize it. Speaking with his sister confirmed that theory since she was older and knew more about the parents marriage. Speaking from personal experience, you don’t need kids to say “I’ve turned into my parents!”

Talking to a college friend who was having a rough patch in his marriage and I explained that odds are he was repeating his parents marriage and he didn’t realize it. Speaking with his sister confirmed that theory since she was older and knew more about the parents marriage.

]]> By: Moses Joshua http://grace-ed.org/blog/archives/1556/comment-page-1#comment-12356 Moses Joshua Mon, 29 Jun 2009 16:29:11 +0000 http://grace-ed.org/blog/?p=1556#comment-12356 I will agree with your statement - "Our greatest challenges related to triangles have to do with changing the patterned behaviors we learned in our family of origins—outgrowing some, adopting new ones, reinterpreting our experiences of the triangulating dynamics, etc." How a particular triangle in one generation has brought about a change in values and thinking in ONE member in that triangle is a result of how the other 2 members in that particular triangle were influenced in their triangle relationships from the past generation. In turn, we keep passing their behaviors to the next generation through our triangle/s. Questions: If i am a members who is trying to chance to create balance in one triangle, then I am also trying to create imbalance in other triangle through my behavior, right? In a marriage triangle, the wife and husband's individual values and thinking are shaped by their triangle patterns. According to your myths of triangles, there will be conflicts or issues that can't be solved just by changing the behavior in one triangle (even if the conflict is solved in one triangle, the same issues gives rise to imbalance in another triangle/s, right? I will agree with your statement – “Our greatest challenges related to triangles have to do with changing the patterned behaviors we learned in our family of origins—outgrowing some, adopting new ones, reinterpreting our experiences of the triangulating dynamics, etc.”

How a particular triangle in one generation has brought about a change in values and thinking in ONE member in that triangle is a result of how the other 2 members in that particular triangle were influenced in their triangle relationships from the past generation. In turn, we keep passing their behaviors to the next generation through our triangle/s.

Questions: If i am a members who is trying to chance to create balance in one triangle, then I am also trying to create imbalance in other triangle through my behavior, right?

In a marriage triangle, the wife and husband’s individual values and thinking are shaped by their triangle patterns. According to your myths of triangles, there will be conflicts or issues that can’t be solved just by changing the behavior in one triangle (even if the conflict is solved in one triangle, the same issues gives rise to imbalance in another triangle/s, right?

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